Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Taking for granted

Figured I should start to write more in here. Was happy to see a few readers and even took the time to place their comments. Thank all of you out there for reading.

My Mum used to say, "Don't take things for granted". Back then, every time I hear this from her, I always thought that she said it just to get my ass moving, so that I can get onto doing what I'm 'supposed' to be doing. I guess it has something to do with "Initiative". Especially if we are in the general work-force, this is the kind of word that your bosses would love to see/know that you incorporate into your working attitude.

Now...the question is, how far should we go with that initiative attitude? Because, there is also a contradicting theory to this, that you may be doing 'too much' or 'over-doing'. So, how and where do we actually draw the line? Being a graduate from an engineering major, I tend to visualize this argument to be a linear meter, whereby "Initiative" and "Time for self" are two extreme opposites.

Time for self ------------------------------------------------------- Initiative

I find that the more you lean towards either side, you will lose more of the other. My old folks used to say, "Work hard now, and you shall reap the fruits of your efforts in future". How true can that be? Sometimes I find that if you work 'too hard', you may even let your life go pass you without even noticing it. Is that worth it? Another popular clause for this I want to share here is:
"Work to live or live to work?". In the first two decades of my life, I have put every effort I could to my studies and now that I'm slightly older, I realize that I have missed a lot of fun things that I would have done if I made time for it.

Is it ever too late to 'catch up' now or is it much more important now for me to push it further to the "Initiative" end? Most would say that a man at my age should be pushing towards the "Initiative" end because this is just the beginning of my man-hood. Ok, let's say I buy that. Give it another 10 years down the road...would I look back, see the fun things that I missed....yet again...and wish that I have did otherwise?

Let's make an assumption that this so-called 10-year cycle keep repeating and I do make the same choices all the way. Now, that would end up with me missing so many things in life right? Ok, now all of you philosophy doctorates out there might be gunning to say "There are sacrifices to be made in life and the things that you gain depends on what you give in." Yeah, I know that. All I'm saying is that I'm still looking for the 'comfortable' position on this hypothetical Initiative meter, and up till now, I still think I'm far from comfortable.

If you're looking for a conclusion to this, I don't have it and I guess I won't have it :) Like every one else, I'm just another imperfect human. Thanks for reading!